Why concentrating on the orgasm often leads to frustration and blame and little success.
Many women struggle to orgasm, some have never done so, despite their partners trying so hard. In fact it seems…
Dealing With a Difference in Libido
This piece is written from a heterosexual viewpoint, but I think all might find points of commonality or points that…
The Benefits of Debriefing After Sex
The day after my first sexual experience with my current partner was a bit weird for me, because he asked…
What is Consensual Non-Monogamy, And Why Is It So Intriguing And Controversial?
Let us look at something most people shy away from, and frown upon – Consensual non-monogamy. Consensual non-monogamy covers many…
Sext It Up: Talk Dirty To Me
From Boys to men who say, “I’ll make love to you like you want me to” to Cardi B who says “I wanna spit, I wanna gulp,…
Confidently Single
***Written by Guest Author Lesley J Adams*** Valentine’s Day, or better known to the singletons as “Single Awareness Day” is…
7 Butt Plugs We All Want
Butt plugs have come a very far way since the initial introduction by Dr Young. He claimed they corrected: constipation,…
Why do people get into BDSM?
You will be surprised to find out that as Lady Gaga says “I’m on the right track baby, I was born this way” and yes I know she wasn’t talking about being kinky but the sentiment applies.
A High Impact Play
Impact is often an integral part of a Play/Scene and a Top must be proficient with an implement before considering using it for high impact. Experience is of course a great way to learn required skills, but it is always worthwhile asking others for advice and guidance. Before engaging in any high impact Play, be confident in what you plan, be clear of what the immediate risks are and be prepared for the possibility of something going wrong
Contrasting Sensations Impact Play
Once you have some experience as a Top and feel you are ready to move on from a sensual play, increasing the impact and contrast could be the next step for you. This play will require a good understanding of your own abilities along with a level of control which allows you to respond to your subject.
A Sensual, Light Impact Play
When introduced to BDSM, it is quite common to feel as if you have entered into a whole new world of things you have never seen before and all you know is that you want to try EVERYTHING!
Aftercare: The What, The How, and The Why
Aftercare is as important as a play itself. I have even written aftercare into contracts before, because inadequate aftercare can have detrimental consequences for the bottom. Aftercare should form part of the play negotiations. Both top and bottom should know what is expected of each other with special care taken where the play will be a new experience.