Impact is often an integral part of a Play/Scene and a Top must be proficient with an implement before considering using it for high impact. Experience is of course a great way to learn required skills, but it is always worthwhile asking others for advice and guidance. Before engaging in any high impact Play, be confident in what you plan, be clear of what the immediate risks are and be prepared for the possibility of something going wrong
Once you have some experience as a Top and feel you are ready to move on from a sensual play, increasing the impact and contrast could be the next step for you. This play will require a good understanding of your own abilities along with a level of control which allows you to respond to your subject.
When introduced to BDSM, it is quite common to feel as if you have entered into a whole new world of things you have never seen before and all you know is that you want to try EVERYTHING!
Aftercare is as important as a play itself. I have even written aftercare into contracts before, because inadequate aftercare can have detrimental consequences for the bottom. Aftercare should form part of the play negotiations. Both top and bottom should know what is expected of each other with special care taken where the play will be a new experience.
You may have already heard the terms SSC (Safe Sane Consensual) and RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). Both of these are important considerations before…