When starting to explore BDSM, remember that there’s no need to rush to create your own perfectly stocked dungeon room. To begin, you could try being blindfolded and let your partner tickle you with a feather, or lightly stroke your skin with a flogger. If that turns you on, move towards slightly racier bondage play, like binding wrists with a silk tie or, a massage candle being dripped on your skin, or exploring the sensation of playful spanking.
BDSM participants identify themselves in one of three main ways: dominant, submissive, and switch (as changing between the first two). It’s important to remember that all of these personalities are shifting and continuous, and can change depending on the participants’ mood or partner.