BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or role playing involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics.
Just as with any relationship, there are different BDSM relationship types out there, and more specifically, there are different kinds of dom sub relationships. Before you enter into an arrangement or relationship involving the dominant/submissive dynamic, make sure that you understand the different relationship styles and use that information to determine which one works best for you.
Dominant & submissive relationships that are entirely virtual and involve no physical experience or exchange. People connect over the phone or via the Internet, and they interact through having conversations and playing out scenes with their partner, even though nothing physically sexual actually happens.
Total Power Exchange
This is one of the most extreme Dom and sub relationships. In this situation, partners assume their roles on a full-time basis, building on the foundation of fulfilling the relationship as a part of their day-to-day lives and not just a part of their sexual fantasies. This is reserved for those who are willing to commit their full lives to the BDSM lifestyle and is not as common as other types of relationships.
Partial Power Exchange
A Master/slave or Dom/sub relationship can also exist only in the sexual encounters or play scenes, without any run over into day-to-day life. Rather than devoting all of their lives to the relationship, the two parties in these relationships dedicate special time to their relationship during play only.
Define Your Own Relationship
The glory of each dynamic is that it can be different for every single couple that engages in the lifestyle. Now that you know a little more about some of the options, it may be easier for you to define what you are looking for. If you’re already in a relationship, talk to your partner about what you want from the BDSM lifestyle.
Read more here on how you can define your agreements and how to understand each other’s limits and boundaries.